A Story Of Regrets

A Story Of Regrets

Many years ago, far, far away, in a distant land in Western Nigeria, there lived a young lad Ayomide.

He was so ambitious that he left his parent’s house at the age of 19 (nineteen). He wanted to become a gold miner in orde to make money so he could remove his family from abject poverty.

One good day his friend Ola, whose uncle happened to work with a gold mining company came around, and on a visit to Ola’s house, he heard of so many tales and adventures of goldmining that intensified his desire

So he followed his friend Ola, who told him about a mining trip he planned on embarking alone hoping to find some gold. He had learnt some cool things from his uncle that he wanted to explore and start mining gold for himself.

Ola had never been on a mining trip all by himself before, this was going to be his first time. He had acquired some manual mining tools which he planned to work with.

As they left for the mining journey, they were both filled with positive energy, Ayomide would fantasize, and think out loud every now and then what he would do with the money he’d make from the sales of his gold.

At one time, he said, “I’ll build my mother a house, and I’ll get a car for my father”.

He was so full of hope, little did he know what the task ahead really required of them.

So they headed to Iperindo, Osun State (this is where gold can be found in Osun). On their way they met another lad who was also on a quest for gold. As they discussed, it seemed he was very knowledgeable in the field of mining.

He told them a lot about quartz rock, and how some miners went as far as going into the ocean in search of gold.

Seeing that the lad Biola, was very knowledgeable, the other boys decided to join forces with him, which they thought was a bright idea.

As they proceeded further, Biola asked the boys if they could buy him some minutes. In his words, he said… “I want to let my uncle know it’s time to leave, hopefully he can equip me with better tools, his house is just a street away from here”.

So, the boys obliged.

As they visited Biola’s uncle, they met him taking breakfast (this was around 8:49 am). They greeted, and sat on the mat on the floor. As his daughter served them with food. 

As they they ate, his uncle, seeing the tools the two friends had on them asked, “are you boys on an errand?”

“No” they replied

“We are on a journey in search for gold” they said further.

And he smiled, and said to them “do you realize the task ahead of you?”

Furthermore, he went ahead to tell them his life’s story, how he wasted 15years of his life on gold search, with little or no luck. He told them that the big companies had already occupied the known sites. Trying to go there would be futile.

He went further to state that, these companies have more mechanized tools and gold detecting equipments, and those doing manual work would only spend more time which may become unfruitful without them getting tangible results.

As he went on, doubts, skepticism, and perplexity rained down on Ayomide’s mind.

“I’m not sure I can carry on with this” he said to his friend when they were outside the compound, about leaving. His friend, Ola inquired why the sudden change of mind.

He said, “we don’t have mechanized tools with us, and most of the gold locations must have been taken over by the big companies”.

Ola bade him farewell, as he continued on his journey, while Ayomide turned back home in despair (his patents must be looking for him already).


Ola had a focused mind, and a dogged attitude, while Ayomide and Biola gave up (Biola has never heard his uncle really say the reasons why he stopped his mining junket). 

Many years later, Ola became a successful gold miner, and even founded his own company.

Ayo’s regrets kept haunting him, when he discovered about Ola’s huge success. He was now married, and was still struggling to make ends meet.

And so we’ve heard…

…that “the pain of regret is far worst than the pain of discipline” – Nathan Whitley

It might seem difficult to finish what you already started…

We might meet people who throw stones on our way, trying to distort our attention. 

Note that some people might not consciously know that they’re doing you a disservice by narrating the failure ordeal. It might be with good intents, nonetheless it’s immaterial, and extraneous. If they failed, that means they stopped trying.


It might even seem more difficult in a 3rd world country like Nigeria where everything seems to be against you.

No electricity, costly internet Data, bad leadership, security agents preying on the freedom of the citizens it’s supposed to be protecting.

You might think there’s no light at the end of the tunnel for you. As true as that may sound seeing the seemingly insurmountable challenges, that isn’t necessary the fact.

Have you ever thought about, being relentless and fearless in the pursuit of your worthy goal?

Did you ever for once in your moment of meditation think about what you would have achieved if you stayed faithful to your dreams, for just 5years?

What would happen if you damned all the “false mental consequences” your uncouth mind keeps feeding you with?

If you followed through, at the end of the day you’d realize that the limitations your mind feeds you with weren’t real after all.

Giving up is not an option. You don’t have all the time in the world.

Roll up your sleeves, and get your hands dirty. Your dreams will only live when you do so!


Keep pushing

# Sir-Duke



Duke Ngboki
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